So you’re really excited about this guy and you’re about to see him again at the gym or somewhere. You have your best outfit on and your hair is done. You even pulled out your Victoria’s Secret super bra. What else can you do to not only get that date, but while on the date make him come back for more?
Going on a date with someone can be a nerve-wracking experience, but it doesn’t have to be. With the right attitude and know-how, you can make your next date memorable! All it takes is some preparation and creativity. Read on for tips and tricks on how to make a date unforgettable.
1) Ask him out.
This isn’t the 50’s anymore. Nowadays, if a woman wants something she goes after it. You may be thinking, “Well shouldn’t the guy pursue the gal?” Sure, but sometimes he needs to see who you are and what you have to offer before he takes you into consideration. Part of attraction is feeling that push and pull when you’re beginning to know someone. It doesn’t just start and end at trying to look great and getting attracted to their physical appearance.
If you make the initial move and ask him to coffee, this seems harmless and it’s not even very direct. You’re not asking him out on a date, just coffee and a chat. Tell him he seems interesting and you want to pick his brain a bit. Just make sure you have some interesting conversation topics to touch on.
Remember back in the day when the lady used to drop her handkerchief and the gentleman would go and pick it up for her and hand it to her (or remember in Clueless when she knocked her pen on the floor)? This was her way of opening the door so he could easily approach and pursue her. You just need to find a way to “drop a handkerchief,” so to speak.
2) Stay away from the same old, same old.
Do an activity date that’s totally different—try bumper cars, an archery or shooting range (most provide equipment), roller derby, etc. A little competition is healthy and fun. Just don’t shoot yourself in the foot (literally or figuratively).
These out-of-the-box, exciting activities will surely get you a second date or at least make sure you make an impression! For example, there are unique activities and date locations in Houston and San Diego.
3) Play truth or dare.
Who didn’t love this game as a kid? You can play truth or dare even as adults to get to know the other person better. It helps people to open up and connect more. The more you share about yourself personally, the more you’ll feel connected to the other person. This is how sparks start to fly and chemistry develops.
I know a married couple who, on their first date, dared each other to go to a strip club because the man shared he had never been to one.
4) Surprise them.
Do something spontaneous or surprise them with a date idea that’s out of the norm. Maybe it’s going for a helicopter flight, horse riding, or apple picking. Surprises can be fun and exciting which will make you seem fun and exciting.
By taking the initiative to surprise the other person, you are adding value to the date and to them. You’re not just a boring person who just shows up and expects to be entertained.
Maybe you surprise them by revealing something interesting about yourself. That same couple who went to the strip club also ended up going to her place so she could show him what she had parked in her garage… motorcycles. She was an avid rider and only told him by actually showing him, which definitely made an impression.
5) Prepare and share.
People approach dating so passively most of the time. They just figure they’ll learn as they go and the other person should just like them the way they are, which on a first date when you’re nervous and out of your element, can come across as awkward and boring.
Think about the people you most enjoy being around. They’re probably adding value to your life in one way or another. You can increase your own personal stock value by bringing something interesting to the conversation.
Have some good questions and great stories to share. Open-ended questions are great such as “What do you think of…” This shows that you’re an interesting person and interested in what they have to say.
Also, share things about yourself. Don’t make it difficult for people to get to know you by holding your cards close. People are attracted to others who have passions, goals, and ideas, and you come off as more authentic and genuine when you’re willing to open up and say who you are.
No matter who you date and what activities you plan to do, it’s important to consider their feelings and interests. You should also show your true self and express your best intentions. Consider what kinds of surprises or special touches will make the evening particularly remarkable.
However, don’t get too preoccupied with all the planning and ensuring that everything is perfect. Just be in the moment and enjoy the entire experience.
We hope these tips will help you make your next date the most memorable one yet!