Today the divorce rate is over 50% in the US. The high divorce rate is an indication of how common it has become for couples to resort to divorce, whether due to infidelity, incompatibility, or other factors. This goes to show people are very quick to pull the trigger to file for divorce. However, it is essential to take a step back and assess the situation before you and your partner decide to end your marriage. I am a Matchmaker at Lumasearch and my husband is a Divorcee so we sat down and listed out 5 things to consider when filing for divorce.
1. Evaluate if a current stressor is temporary or fatal to the relationship. It’s important to assess if the stressor will pass with time or if it’s a fundamental issue that cannot be resolved. Sometimes, external stressors such as financial difficulties, job loss, or illness can put a strain on a relationship. However, with communication and support, couples can work through these challenges and become stronger on the other side.
On the other hand, if the stressor results from deeper underlying issues, such as infidelity or irreconcilable differences, it may be necessary to consider divorce as a solution.
Take the time to assess the situation and make a thoughtful decision based on what is best for both parties involved.
2. Assess if your standards are realistic and whether they could be contributing to relationship problems. People often have high expectations for their partners and relationships. While you’re allowed to have standards, it’s also important to be realistic and considerate of your partner’s needs and limitations.One of the things to consider when filing for divorce is if your partner meets reasonable expectations, especially if you expect perfection or something unrealistic.
Reflecting on what is truly important in a relationship and what can be compromised may be helpful.Additionally, communicate your expectations clearly with your partner and work together to find a mutually beneficial solution.
3. Think about co-parenting after divorce and what your relationship with your ex will be like. If children are involved, consider how the divorce will affect them and how co-parenting will work. Some things to consider when filing for divorce would be how you will communicate and make decisions as co-parents, how you will manage conflicts that arise, and how you will maintain a positive relationship with your ex for the sake of the children.
Prioritize the well-being of the children and put aside any personal conflicts or issues with the ex-partner. Maintaining a respectful and cooperative relationship with your ex can help make the transition smoother for everyone involved. Establishing clear boundaries and expectations for co-parenting is essential to ensure a successful and healthy arrangement.
Consider the factors contributing to the issue and whether they are temporary or permanent. Remember that it takes effort and dedication to build a successful relationship.
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